Sermon on Personal Relationships – Principles for Personal Cooperation

1. Romans 12:18 “If it be possible, as much as in you lieth, be at peace with all men.”

2. This ought to be the foundation of our personal relationships.

3. Christians need to be bridge builders, not bridge burners.

1. Romans 13:8 “Owe no man anything, save to love one another: for he that loveth his neighbor hath fulfilled the law.”

2. If we see those around us as the objects of our love, we will be less inclined to disagree with them and more inclined to encourage them.

3. Christians ought to always be characterized by a loving spirit.

1. John 7:24 “Judge not according to appearance, but judge righteous judgment.”

2. It is often easy to jump to conclusions.

3. And sometimes things appear to be wrong when they may not be.

4. If we are going to get along with one another, then we need to make sure we get the facts about another’s behavior.

1. 1 Corinthians 12:6 “And there are diversities of workings, but the same God, who worketh all things in all.”

2. Different people have different ways of looking at things and doing things.

3. We need to make sure that our disagreements aren’t merely their wanting to accomplish the same goal in a different way.

1. James 1:19 “Ye know this, my beloved brethren. But let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath”.

2. It is hard to listen to someone when they disagree with you. But that is what we ought to do.

3. Often times problems can be solved simply be listening and letting someone else “get something off their chest.”

1. James 3:8 “But the tongue can no man tame; it is a restless evil, it is full of deadly poison.”

2. Perhaps our greatest weakness when we get involved in disagreements is the tongue.

3. We ought to desire to control this above all other things.

4. James 1:19 says we ought to be “slow to speak.”

1. Ephesians 4:31 “Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamor, and railing, be put away from you, with all malice”.

2. It is easy to get angry when having personal disagreements.

3. Anger will only escalate a situation from bad to worse.

4. However, the last thing we need to express in personal disagreements is anger.

1. Romans 1:8 “First, I thank my God through Jesus Christ for you all, that your faith is proclaimed throughout the whole world.”

2. Paul often dealt with problems in the churches, but first he commended that which was right.

3. We may disagree, but we can always commend someone on what they do right.

1. Luke 17:3 “Take heed to yourselves: if thy brother sin, rebuke him; and if he repent, forgive him.”

2. When someone has done something wrong, then they need to be rebuked.

3. We must do this with love.

4. But we mustn’t let wrong triumph over good.

5. If the other person has the right attitude, then they will repent.

1. 2 Corinthians 7:10 “For godly sorrow worketh repentance unto salvation, a repentance which bringeth no regret: but the sorrow of the world worketh death.”

2. If we have done that which is wrong, then we need to repent.

3. We have to be humble enough, at this point, to understand that God requires this of us, not our fellow.

1. Luke 17:4 “And if he sin against thee seven times in the day, and seven times turn again to thee, saying, I repent; thou shalt forgive him.”

2. If our brother repents, then we have the obligation to forgive.

3. This means we have no right to bring up the same sin in the future and hold it against him.

4. From this point on, we need to personally acknowledge our brother’s fault and help him with it.

1. Ephesians 4:25 “Wherefore, putting away falsehood, speak ye truth each one with his neighbor: for we are members one of another.”

2. In difficult situations, we may be tempted to not tell the truth, or to not tell the whole truth.

3. We need to be up front and honest with those with whom we disagree.

4. Nothing truly gets solved if we don’t express the whole truth.

1. 1 Peter 5:5 “Likewise, ye younger, be subject unto the elder. Yea, all of you gird yourselves with humility, to serve one another: for God resisteth the proud, but giveth grace to the humble.”

2. We need to have humility and be willing to serve each other.

3. Pride is a great enemy and can cause many problems.

4. This can be overcome with humility and a serving attitude.

1. Romans 12:9 “Let love be without hypocrisy. Abhor that which is evil; cleave to that which is good.”

2. We must avoid hypocrisy in our life.

3. Hypocrisy only allows those of us who disagree with us to accuse us.

4. We can’t afford to be hypocrites; we must live consistently with how we teach.

1. 1 Corinthians 6:7 “Nay, already it is altogether a defect in you, that ye have lawsuits one with another. Why not rather take wrong? why not rather be defrauded?”

2. Sometimes, for whatever reason, things won’t work out our way.

3. We ought to be willing to be wronged for the sake of Christian unity.

1. 1 Peter 2:21 “For hereunto were ye called: because Christ also suffered for you, leaving you an example, that ye should follow his steps”.

2. When all else fails, we ought to look to the Lord and ask, “What would Jesus do” in this situation.

3. He lived a sinless life and is our perfect example.

4. Let us imitate him.