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Can I divorce my husband because he is not the leader financially, emotionally, or physically?

Can I divorce my husband because he is not the leader financially, emotionally, or physically? For three years now I have been the head in my house. I feel as if I am the man and he is the woman. Prior to getting married I knew I should not have married him but thought it only wedding jitters. Well now I know that is not so. My husband is extremely passive and complacent. Prior to me getting baptized I was thinking in my mind that I should seperate from my husband because I was lost anyways and that maybe this was God giving me a second chance.

Jesus said in Matthew 19:6, “What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.” If you were legally married and you made a commitment to your husband then God expects you to keep that commitment for life. I understand that marriage is not always easy; it takes a lot of work. My own wife and I have been married for 13 years and it has been a struggle all the way. This is part of God’s plan to help you and your husband come to understand more about who God is and what His relationship is with us.

The only reason that Jesus gave for divorce is if your spouse has been sexually unfaithful to you (Matthew 19:9). So unless he has done this, then there is no reason for you to divorce. It doesn’t matter when you became a Christian; the marriage is still a marriage because it is a relationship between you and your husband and God and God expects you to keep your promises whether you are a Christian or not.

What you and your husband need is to sit down together and to spend some time in prayer and study of God’s word together. Help one another become more spiritually minded. You can be a good example to him in this regard. Your example will cause him to think about his own personal responsibilities and he will respond to it. But if you are constantly complaining to him in words then he is more likely to ignore you than to take your advice. This is what God’s word teaches. Read 1 Peter 3:1-7.

I pray that you will trust in God’s word on this question because our Creator knows us better than we know ourselves. He knows what we need; if we listen to Him, then we will have our needs satisfied and we will have a happy life. But when we ignore God’s words, we lose our happiness and our souls as well.