I have some thoughts on this subject that I’d like to pass on.
I realize that there are some looking for some psychological edge or program of obedience like a dog trainer…, I’ve even seen a recent article teaching women how to train their husbands using tactics from dog trainers. I’m sure many women tried the tactics without realizing they’d just been trained having read the article. I really have no idea what the querist wanted. Maybe it was:
“How to Make My Wife Submissive Without Going to Jail”
“How to Make My Wife Submissive Without Being a Bully”
“How to Make My Wife Submissive Without Her Being Miserable”
Yet, if you’ve read the Bible you know that wives are to submit to their husbands (Eph. 5:22). So, how does a husband make his wife submissive? It’s a fair question.
Sorry, men. You can’t.
I can hear the men in my mind:
- “Then how will we ever agree on anything?” (You might not ever.)
- “How will I ever have a happy home?” (Might not happen.)
Sorry, let me say it again. YOU CAN’T MAKE YOUR WIFE SUBMISSIVE.
She has to volunteer, of her own free will.
There are no instructions in the Bible for a man to make his wife do anything. Your wife has to decide to follow you. That has to happen by the instruction of a loving God who wants what’s best for her, helped along by a loving, patient husband, a husband who doesn’t keep score, who understands that submission is a spiritual matter and that wives sometimes must grow spiritually. The instruction for a wife to be submissive is from God, not the husband. He must give and she must heed the warnings about disobedience.
I know this is not what the querist wanted to hear. it’s not what I wanted to hear when I was a young husband. But that’s the way it is.